A wonderful essay, Sara, about self-love and acceptance. In this consumerist culture, where sometimes everything (and everyone) is a commodity, your message—that we're all worthy of love no matter who we are or what we have—is a breath of fresh air. Thank you.
I appreciated this, Sara! I'm a bit older than the age demographic you mention here (!!) but I have been reflecting lately that one thing I love about entering middle age is that I no longer feel like I need to be focusing on pleasing other people. Part of that is just the wisdom of age, I suppose, but I like how you're reminding us that this kind of self-knowledge and acceptance is accessible at any time for those who are willing to claim it.
Well said! I found your writings on singleness in my early 30s and I found them to be so encouraging and honest! There does seem to be a 'coupled privilege' if you will in society where you tend to judge yourself less once you are partnered off. I've been with my husband for almost 8 years, and I'm amazed at how much less I judge myself on the married side of things. If we don't have New Years plans - who cares, we can go to bed early, or if we do have plans, we leave early anyway, because we have a toddler, and I like sleep! When I was single and ended up with no NYE plans, I often felt like I was failing at life:) Separately, I'm just a flawed and average person who met another flawed and average person that I enjoy doing life with. I feel like if everyone would approach finding a partner in that way, it would take the pressure off. There is no need to be perfect to find love!
Totally agree. Thank you for the reminder. I think we need these messages far more frequently than the ‘Rah Rah, I’m so great!’ attempts at boosting self-esteem that are often delusional, ha ha!
A wonderful essay, Sara, about self-love and acceptance. In this consumerist culture, where sometimes everything (and everyone) is a commodity, your message—that we're all worthy of love no matter who we are or what we have—is a breath of fresh air. Thank you.
Thank you, Suzanne! I'm so glad to know this resonated!
I appreciated this, Sara! I'm a bit older than the age demographic you mention here (!!) but I have been reflecting lately that one thing I love about entering middle age is that I no longer feel like I need to be focusing on pleasing other people. Part of that is just the wisdom of age, I suppose, but I like how you're reminding us that this kind of self-knowledge and acceptance is accessible at any time for those who are willing to claim it.
Very well put! Thanks, Rebeckah.
Well said! I found your writings on singleness in my early 30s and I found them to be so encouraging and honest! There does seem to be a 'coupled privilege' if you will in society where you tend to judge yourself less once you are partnered off. I've been with my husband for almost 8 years, and I'm amazed at how much less I judge myself on the married side of things. If we don't have New Years plans - who cares, we can go to bed early, or if we do have plans, we leave early anyway, because we have a toddler, and I like sleep! When I was single and ended up with no NYE plans, I often felt like I was failing at life:) Separately, I'm just a flawed and average person who met another flawed and average person that I enjoy doing life with. I feel like if everyone would approach finding a partner in that way, it would take the pressure off. There is no need to be perfect to find love!
I’m so glad to know my work helped when you were younger. And yes re the couple thing I’ve experienced the same thing!
Bravo, Sara! Great article.
Thank you, Ann!
Totally agree. Thank you for the reminder. I think we need these messages far more frequently than the ‘Rah Rah, I’m so great!’ attempts at boosting self-esteem that are often delusional, ha ha!
Thanks, glad you agree!