Archive - It's Not Us

You're More Than Your Checklist

When you’re looking for love, it’s tempting to review your pleasing qualities. I’d like to suggest an alternative.

Feb 4 •

January 2025

December 2024

How to Surrender Without Giving Up

Optimism eluded me, but I found something better.

Dec 10, 2024 •

November 2024

When what goes around refuses to come around.

Nov 22, 2024 •

How I'm Staying Sane

For now, anyway.

Nov 14, 2024 •

Coping Lessons From My Uncle Howie

Dementia stole his words, but not his humanity.

Nov 6, 2024 •

October 2024

The Agony of the Middle Manager

Three new books reveal the moral complexities of being the boss.

Oct 21, 2024 •

September 2024

Beware Hetero-Exceptionalism

On 'good husbands' and 'divorce memoir' backlash.

Sep 5, 2024 •

Tracy Clark-Flory

August 2024

"We Have to Try"

How down-ballot races can offer hopeful views into the future.

Aug 6, 2024 •

July 2024

The Prophet of West 43rd Street

I never shared my acting teacher's evangelical Christian beliefs, but taking her class was transformative.

Jul 24, 2024 •

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